You have a crush on her? There’s a possibility that there are a dozen other guys vouching for her as well. So your concern is to grab her attention and hold on to it with your life.
1. Gauge The Situation
You finally got her number, but was she totally enthusiastic while giving it? Or was she being cordial? Or did she do that to simply save your face at the party? Get to understand her thought process and act accordingly. If she was enthusiastic, there’s no harm in messaging the next day with a greeting! Even if she wasn’t, give her some breathing space or she will find you too clingy. Keep etiquette in mind and casually tell her you would be messaging the next day. Also, what about the 3-day rule from How I Met Your Mother? Throw that out of the window; it’s all about the unique chemistry you share.
2. Message In Proportion
You glance at your phone and see a text from her. What do you do? Send half a dozen messages about what you’re doing to what you’re eating to what you’re feeling? No. Just no. Curb that enthusiasm and go easy on her or you’ll make her look like a deer caught in headlights. Also, don’t message her after every couple of hours. You might have some free time but that doesn’t mean she does too. Balance it out and keep it healthy. Overwhelming can be quite dangerous at times.
3. Don’t Interrogate
You’re head over heels for this lass and you want to know everything about her. That doesn’t mean you should adorn the hat of a cop and barrage her with questions! Go easy with the questions, space them out a bit. Usually, people tend to ask a question even before the previous one is perfectly answered. Share things with her if they are similar. Give a bit of yourself while you are taking some a bit of her. Another bit of advice, keep the generic questions aside. Ask her something about her recent hobby, and add your two bits about it if you do have. It’s always a delight to connect over a common point.
4. Treat Her Like A Human
You might be visioning her as a Greek Goddess draped in golden silk coming your way, but she too is human, so do remember to treat her like one while you’re placing her on a pedestal. She might say something which was meant to be funny but didn’t come off that way; the typical guy might laugh just to please her. You don’t. Keep it real and be true. Women dig honest men than the ones who’re hell-bent on flattering them constantly.
5. Keep It Interesting
You have a crush on her? There’s a possibility that there are a dozen other guys vouching for her as well. So your concern is to grab her attention and hold on to it with your life. Don’t bother with meaningless questions and unnecessary descriptions about your day. If she loves reading, share few insightful quotes with her. Understand her hobbies and habits and shape your words around those. Keep the conversations hilarious and enticing. Women always love a man with a funny bone.
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