1. He won't move in with you yet
A lot of women have a sort of a timeline for their relationship. They believe that by some particular year (for many women it's between year 1 and year 3) they should be moved in with their boyfriend. However, if the man fails to suggest it, or even rejects the idea when they bring it up, many women will call it quits.
Why it doesn't have to end:
Men think about the big picture more than you give them credit for. And a lot of men, rather than thinking, "We've been dating for three whole years" think, "We have only been together three out of the 60-something years we might be together." And when you look at it that way, waiting another year or two, if it could keep the relationship together, is worth it. By the way, why not to enjoy a little more time having a place all to yourself? Probable, it will be the last time you ever do.
2. He won't introduce you to his family yet
Women feel more pressure than men when the question of marriage arises. If they a particular age still unmarried, they become less attracted as partners. So a woman is ready to bring a guy home after just a few months of dating, just to show her family, "Hey! Look! I won't end up alone." However, men usually need much more time to introduce their partners to parents. Thus, many women think the guy's just not serious about them.
Why it doesn't have to end:
Women are far more comfortable leaning on their family during emotionally trying times like, say, during a breakup. So they don't mind their family knowing about every relationship that begins and ends. But men often either don't feel comfortable turning to their family during a breakup, or don't think it's a burden they should put on their family, so in order for them to take a woman home, they need to feel pretty certain it's the woman they'll marry. Meanwhile females don't need to know they'll marry a male to take him home: they just need to believe they can be happy for a few years for now. But for men, bringing a woman home is his subtle way of saying, "She's the one." That's worth waiting for.
3. He won't propose yet
And here we touch upon timeline again: a lot of women believe that if a man doesn't propose by some particular year x, he's just never going to. And they believe that if a guy goes silent when the subject of marriage comes up, he'll definitely never propose.
Why it doesn't have to end:
The truth is that women are usually always certain of their feelings for a guy long before the men are certain of their feelings for a woman. You know it's true: you probably had to hold back your giddiness about your guy in the first few months - or even a year - until his enthusiasm caught up. But then, when he was in, he was all in. Almost every woman feels ready to marry her partner before her partner feels ready to marry her. Your man is normal, there is nothing wrong about it. So long as he talks about the far away future with you comfortably, there's nothing to worry about.
4. You're consumed by insecurities
Hey, we're all head-trips. We all down-spiral into these hurricanes of insecurities, thinking that our partner would be better suited with a woman the complete opposite of ourselves, thinking we'll turn out just like our mothers and our marriage will turn out just like our parents', thinking we'll get fat the moment we get married. Many women get so consumed by insecurities, but are far too proud to bring them up to their partner, so, rather than live in turmoil, they just end the relationship, leaving a very confused man behind.
Why it doesn't have to end:
Well, your boy has seen enough chick flicks you've dragged him to to know that women have those thoughts. He won't think you need to be committed to the psych ward if you share your insecurities with him. If he loves you, he'll do what's within his means to ease those insecurities. And you know what? You'll have those insecurities with anybody you date, so it'd be a shame to walk away from a great guy, only to date a sea of mediocre men, who will still elicit those feelings.
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