Hi Stella and Blog visitors,
I met a lady while in the university, we didn't date but I made my intention known to her.
she didn't stay long before she left for overseas to finish her studies. fast forward to 2011,we met again and we started a relationship immediately .
we had our introduction early dis year.I was jobless when we got back again but she spoke with her dad and the man set up a business for me to manage,we live in the same city but not together cos her religion forbids us staying together before the wedding but we see often.
Now after the intro I noticed some strange behaviour from her ,like she doesn't respect me,she'll talk to me anyhow in public,very aggressive ,she gets angry easily,she's not proud of me becos she wouldn't want me to attend any of her family functions with her etc.
she's from a popular family.now its not that I'm bad looking,I was once a model.I met another lady like a month ago through an old friend,I thought I could just use her to kill boredom and while away time but I was wrong.she happens to be a very good and lovely girl,very fun to be with and a wife material.she's based in south Africa but we met during her last visit to Nigeria.
Now this lady is very much in love with me and she's very serious about settling down.I like her too because she's kind and very humble.now back to my fiance,my business is not going on well again and i am so broke right now to d extent that I live off her,she feeds me,gives me little money once in a while' even to the extent of paying for my BB subscription in the last 2months.
I know she's not happy in the relationship becos i am not the type her family expects to marry, Am also not happy too cos I have lost all my self respect.she cheated on me sometime ago and her reason was that she doesn't know what the future holds for both of us,although she later blamed it on the devil.
The lady in south Africa is trying to get me over to her base so that we can start a new life there.she's very okay too and she's already promised to get me a job too as soon as I get there. Please Stella ,I don't want to marry out of pity. should I just quit the relationship with my fiance and go and start another life with this other lady?
please advice me.I am so confused.
*she cheated on you?both of you cheated on each other.
*what makes you think the one in SA will not change after your financial burden becomes too heavy?
*The father might have invested in you to test you,now your business is bad and you are broke..bad omen.
*Are you lazy?
Why don't you sit your wife to be down and have a heart to heart talk?that will help you make up your mind,tell her how her actions make you feel.tell her your fears.her reaction will help your make up your mind faster.good luck.
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